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Amy + Chera

(c) Catalina Kulczar, 2014

(c) Catalina Kulczar, 2014

When Amy nervously called up her mom to come out, to tell her mom that she was in a long-term relationship with Chera, she was prepared for the worst. Little did she know that her brother had come out to her mom four months earlier, but no one had let Amy in on that particular tidbit of news. So that means, as Amy likes to joke, that of the four children her parents have, half of them turned out gay.

Chera’s parents, who are a bit more old school, didn’t initially appreciate the news, and screamed and screamed and screamed at her when she told them over a pay phone back in 2000. After Chera missed the holiday celebrations that year, her mom called her and told her that she simply missed Chera too much and wanted Chera back in her life, but on one condition: Chera was not to talk about “it,” or shove “it” in her face.

 You can almost hear the shrug in Chera’s voice when she tells this part of her story. And while both women have made peace with this condition, and Chera’s parents love their two grandchildren, as Chera explains, it’s not like she’s any different. She was the same person before the news as she was after the news, and no amount of talking about it or ignoring it would change that.

 She gives the same line of reasoning when asked about dealing with those who oppose gay marriage: it’s not like gay couples are any different, or that now that more states are legalizing same-sex marriages, that people will become gay. They will be who they were and who they were meant to be regardless.

And in Amy and Chera’s case, they’re a recently married couple that loves their two kids and one another, whether it remains spoken or unspoken.